Tired of Quitting Your Goals? Here’s How to Trust Yourself Again

Thinking about quitting a goal before you really even get started? I think we’ve all been there… or at least I have.

What I set out to do feels SO huge that I sometimes feel like quitting—before I’ve even started. Have you ever felt like that? If so, this blog is for you.

It’s easy to start talking yourself out of something:

“Why should I bother? Why start when I probably won’t be able to stick with it?”

Suddenly, you remember every other time you had a plan:

• The treadmill that’s now your most expensive clothing rack

• The Pinterest recipes you saved to help you live healthier

• All the times things didn’t work out

And it stings.

If you’re being fully honest, deep down you’ve started to lose trust in your ability to make it work.

But here’s the truth: you’re not lacking motivation. You are still very capable of reaching your goals. You are not the problem.

The real issue might just be how you’ve approached your goals—up until now.

Let’s break it down.

What Most People Do (and Why It Backfires)

Most people start out strong: New year. New goals. New motivation. They ride that wave of inspiration and think, “This time WILL be different.”

Let’s face it—staying motivated in the beginning is easy. But the moment something feels hard, boring, or a little inconvenient… guess what? They fall off the infamous wagon. Again.

Then the inner critic rears its ugly head:

“See? I knew it. I’m not motivated enough to make it.”

This becomes a cycle: Start → Struggle → Stop → Shame → Repeat

You think you’re different. That you’re missing something other people have. In reality, you’ve just been taught something that isn’t true.

You’ve been told to depend on motivation—which is like a sugar rush. Quick, exciting, and gone just as fast.

Motivation is based on feelings—and our feelings fluctuate. It’s not something we can rely on to show up when we need it long term.

Why You Feel Like You Can’t Stick to Anything

Here are some common reasons we start to doubt ourselves:

You associate change with pressure.

Go big or go home! You think you need to do it all, and do it perfectly, for it to count. It becomes too overwhelming to even start.

You expect instant results.

You don’t want to waste time or energy. So when things move slower than expected, you assume you’re doing it wrong—and stop.

You assume that doing it “right” should feel easy.

So when it feels awkward or uncomfortable, you think something must be wrong.

And the big one: You’ve been repeating the Start-Stop pattern.

When we break promises to ourselves too many times, we start believing we can’t be trusted. It’s like the friend who keeps canceling plans at the last minute. Eventually, you just stop expecting them to show up. The trust is gone.

It’s Not a Willpower Problem—It’s a Self-Trust Problem

The real issue isn’t motivation—it’s evidence. You’ve collected years of micro-proof that you don’t follow through. That your promises don’t stick.

So when you set a new goal, a little voice inside whispers:

“You’ve said this before. You won’t stick with it.”

This isn’t just about mindset. It’s about rebuilding trust with yourself.

You need to start proving that you’ve got your own back—especially when things get hard.

Because creating real change is hard.

How to Build Self-Trust (One Brick at a Time)

You can’t just read a self-help book and think your way into better self-trust. You have to act your way into it.

Start proving to yourself that you mean what you say. And no, that doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly. It means starting small and staying consistent.

Try this:

• Set a goal that’s almost laughably small.
  → “I’ll walk for 5 minutes.”
  → “I’ll stretch while the coffee brews.”

• Do it even when you don’t feel like it.
  Especially then. That’s where the magic happens.

• Track your kept promises—not just your results.
  Show yourself you’re reliable. Following through matters as much as the outcome.

• Let go of the timeline.
  You’re not behind. You’re rebuilding at your own pace.

• Celebrate repetition.
  Consistency isn’t boring—it’s the very thing that builds trust.

The Identity Shift That Changes Everything

When you start keeping small promises, you stop being the person who always gives up.

And you become:

• The kind of person who keeps showing up

• The kind of person who does what they say

• The kind of person who can trust themselves again

That shift changes everything.

Because the next time you start something, you believe you can keep going—even when it’s hard.

That’s the kind of person you are now.

What If You Just Started Today?

Forget perfection. No one can live up to that.

Forget the version of you who always nailed it the first time.

We all make mistakes. That’s not failure—it’s feedback.

So start today. Take one small, imperfect, doable step.

Because every time you show up—especially when it’s not convenient—you add to your future memory bank:

“I’m the kind of person who never gives up.”

That’s how trust is rebuilt. And that’s how change actually happens.

You’ve got this—one small step at a time. —Marlene